This one got me thinking. Love the comment on the responsibility to sometimes take your 50% out of a toxic situation. We do not think about responsibility in that way often enough. “Control what you can control” comes to mind….and your suggestion to thoughtfully control and own your 50% is clear and powerful. I have to admit that sometimes I don’t have a full 50% to give….and owning that is equally as important. In relationship, sharing your (less than 50%) reality is a form of taking responsibility for what you can honestly give. I’m not asking my relationship partner to give more….but to accept me for what I can give today. Whenever I’ve done that, only good things have happened.
I appreciate that nuance, Ben. For me, you owning the fact that you’re not able to give as much as you want/as much is needed in a given moment IS you taking responsibility for your half of the relationship. The way I currently think about it, if you were putting blame on your partner for a disconnect in the relationship, *that* would be not owning your 50%. But I’m going to continue to reflect on this, thank you!
This one got me thinking. Love the comment on the responsibility to sometimes take your 50% out of a toxic situation. We do not think about responsibility in that way often enough. “Control what you can control” comes to mind….and your suggestion to thoughtfully control and own your 50% is clear and powerful. I have to admit that sometimes I don’t have a full 50% to give….and owning that is equally as important. In relationship, sharing your (less than 50%) reality is a form of taking responsibility for what you can honestly give. I’m not asking my relationship partner to give more….but to accept me for what I can give today. Whenever I’ve done that, only good things have happened.
I appreciate that nuance, Ben. For me, you owning the fact that you’re not able to give as much as you want/as much is needed in a given moment IS you taking responsibility for your half of the relationship. The way I currently think about it, if you were putting blame on your partner for a disconnect in the relationship, *that* would be not owning your 50%. But I’m going to continue to reflect on this, thank you!