Thank you for another thoughtful and thought provoking start to the week. I had a moment this weekend where I believed I had no choice. If I didn’t forge ahead, everyone around me would be disappointed, unhappy, stressed. So I did the thing and fought it the whole way, making myself and others miserable. And in retrospect, I realize, that was still my choice. To be anxious and miserable, but a choice nonetheless. So, if I had seen the moment for what it was - a decision point - there are so many better choices I could have made. A STOP or a mindful moment would have helped immensely. I might have seen that the only control I had was to make a different choice.
Lauren, I wonder if there is a signal or physical sensation that indicates that you are headed in a direction that isn't the right one for you, which might remind you to take that mindful moment to reflect, inspect and consciously choose your course of action? How does your body try to let you know that you have a choice, even when you are in go-along mode?
Thank you for another thoughtful and thought provoking start to the week. I had a moment this weekend where I believed I had no choice. If I didn’t forge ahead, everyone around me would be disappointed, unhappy, stressed. So I did the thing and fought it the whole way, making myself and others miserable. And in retrospect, I realize, that was still my choice. To be anxious and miserable, but a choice nonetheless. So, if I had seen the moment for what it was - a decision point - there are so many better choices I could have made. A STOP or a mindful moment would have helped immensely. I might have seen that the only control I had was to make a different choice.
Lauren, I wonder if there is a signal or physical sensation that indicates that you are headed in a direction that isn't the right one for you, which might remind you to take that mindful moment to reflect, inspect and consciously choose your course of action? How does your body try to let you know that you have a choice, even when you are in go-along mode?