A note on needs
I find it useful to reflect on needs. Especially because we take for granted that they are in fact things we need and not mere crutches for our ego.
I used to have a need to be liked…
…which I replaced with a need to be right…
…which I replaced with a need to be understood.
But it’s all the same trap:
Putting my sense of worth in the hands of others who simply aren’t qualified to appraise me.
And let’s remember, most people are viewing us through the lens of their own “needs.” So invest in their judgments with caution.
I still want to be understood, but I think the way forward is in my own seeking to understand.
And being very deliberate about the who and when and why.